You can learn a lot about your partner by looking at how they act when you’re arguing. A person’s conflict style can reveal a lot about their personality and their feelings towards you:
· They initiate arguments. If they have no qualms about confronting you or instigating arguments it’s a sign that they have an aggressive personality. They don’t like letting things go by the wayside and want to deal with conflict head on. This also shows that they care about your relationship – they don’t want to just let disagreements go, and they’d rather deal with them instead of letting hostility fester.
· They’re explosive. If they yell, burst into tears or act in any other emotionally explosive way, they are a passionate person. They care deeply about the relationship and have invested a lot of their emotions in it. They care about what you do and think, and take it personally when you’re upset about something.
· They shut down. If they storm off or shut down communication it means that they have difficulty dealing with stress and conflict. They would rather avoid it, which is why they try to leave. They care a lot about you and what you think, and want to avoid any situation or argument that reflects badly on them or casts a negative light on the relationship.